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What can you do as a parent to help your kids succeed and stay mentally healthy?

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1. Be a "cheerleader" and supporter for your teen: Show an interest in what they're learning, but let teachers handle the situation if they don't do homework or do it incorrectly.
 

2.  Recognize your child's work style: If they need to take breaks in between assignments, it's ok.
 

3. Help your teen create a schedule that allows them to get their homework done while still giving them time for relaxation, fun and adequate sleep.
 

4. Don't overlook non-academic achievements: Kids of all ages should have playtime, downtime and family time every day. Eat meals together, create family traditions and enjoy an activity together.
 

5. Allow for downtime between activities: Kids develop their identity when they dream, explore and engage in interests outside of school. 
 

6. Define success and identify values as a family: Let them know acing a test or being number one isn't the most important measure of success. Discuss other values such as compassion, integrity, helping others, etc.
 

7. Acknowledge there isn't one path to success: There are plenty of successful people who didn't get a perfect SAT score. Talk about your own failures and struggles and let them know they don't need to be perfect to have a good life. 
 

8. Watch your words: If the first thing out of your mouth when they walk in is "how did you do on your test?"  you could be implying you value grades most. Ask how their day was, what they learned that was interesting, and what they did with their friends.
 

9. Let them know (and remind yourself!) that Ivy League doesn't guarantee lifetime success: There's more to the college experience than the name on the building. Help your kids figure out what's the right path for them. Maybe it starts at a community college where they can explore many interests. Maybe it's pursuing a trade. Accept that their path may not be the same as the one you envisioned for them. There isn't one "right way" to do things. At the end of the day, health and happiness will help them be successful.

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This list was adapted from "School Stress: 10 Ways Parents Can Help Kids Manage Stress"

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